Sadly it sounds like he is 'training ' you quite well to accept his cultish behavior as normal . Are YOU happy with that ? If you want to wear or purchase a cross necklace ,do you feel 'free' to do so after this ? Does he give your feelings and wishes as much respect as you give his ? Things to think about ....
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I made a huge mistake
by KariOtt inits been a tough 6 months for my jw hubby and myself.
next saturday is our anniversary.
i wasn't sure we would make it with the turbulance of the last 6 months.
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Colorado Flooding Near My House
by dazed but not confused inhere are some picture in my neighborhood.. our house was not affected.
there is possibly more flash flooding expected tonight.. in the picture below our house sits at the bottom right corner about 2 blocks out of frame.
yesterday and tonight we are staying in another town with family.. .
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DAzed I didn't realize you lived in Longmont ! I am just sick over all the destruction that has occured in that area . Our son lives in NW Longmont .and called at noon to say there was a warning out to 1000 homes near MacIntosh Lake ( which is very close to him ) . He hasn't been able to reach work in Boulder since Thursday. I hear roads are begining to re-open ,but it also has been raining again all day today ... Hope your home remains safe as well as your family . The aerial views on YouTube from Denver 7 news are just very eye opening to how extensive this disaster really is .....it is going to take a long time to rebuild all that has been lost .esp. the small mountain towns . We usually visit Estes ,Lyons and near Jamestown every summer .
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I'm Perfect, You're Doomed - a review
by Farkel in"i'm perfect, you're doomed" by kyria abrahams, 2009, touchstone.. if you want a way to get people out of that horrible cult, easily, quickly and expeditiously, then here is how to do that.. i can say with a vote of confidence that anyone who reads this book will never and i mean never become a dub.
dubs who read it (assuming they have at least one or two brain cells left) will run from their religion like flies on shit when you pour bleach on it and blow it up with dynamite.. toss away crisis of conscience, apocalypse delayed, 30 years a watchtower slave and all those other very nice books and read this one.
i read those and all the other ones.
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I loved Kyria'a book ! One of those books that I actually did laugh out loud while reading . I get her sense of humor .
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Ya no me importa! I don't care anymore !
by losingit inafterfinding out that my soon to ve ex-husband's jw mom is deathly ill, and that he wont be visiting her ( she lives in anothrr country) after he made plans, i only assumed the jw conscience kicked in.
he must have been summarily disinvited by his father who initially called to inform him that his mother was crying to see him.
so here's tge email i wrote to his lazy obese brother: .
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That was very kind of you on behalf of your ex . I thought it was well written .
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Our DC is on now and I...
by Julia Orwell in...was just in the yard playing with my cat.
spent ages with my beautiful cat, watching her roll on the lawn and purr.
her fur is unbelievably soft.. we slept in, got up, had a leisurely breakfast knowing we can go at our own pace, tended the chickens, i called my brother; hubby and i did some housework, played with the cat, and we're off to a lunch date down the local pizza place, knowing we won't have any jws pass by and snub us or look askance at hubby's beard because they're all in brisbane.. it feels a bit funny missing something i've been going to since i was 18, but it also feels good.
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Yes Julia I was thinking the same thing today . It was a beautiful sunny day here and I was in the drive way washing and cleaning my car .
I was thinking about how when I was a Witness I use to envy the householders on Saturday morning that were getting chores like this done in a relaxed fashion . I on the other hand was frazzeled because I had to make sure the house was ready for the field service group to meet ,plus make sure my three kids were clean, fed, and ready to go in service . There was never time to really relax ....just pressure ,rush ,move on to the next scheduled meeting ,service ,study . I would choke when the service director would say we could fit everything else in if we served Jehovah first ....I NEVER FOUND that possible .
I absolutely love my free time now and I squander it shamelessly with pride ,and a huge smile on my face !
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Another story... possibly final story
by confusedandalone inthis is the exchange of text messages i had with my super spiritual brother.
it is sad... it is pathetic... it has helped me realize that i have no connection to these people anymore.
i feel free today.
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I like how you think confusedandalone ,but I don't think your name really fits you . You are not too confused if you ask me .
When I left I felt the same way as you ,none of them were my true friends ,and as long as I had my immediate family with me I would be okay . I also liked the fact you let the Elders know their real place which is NOT in charge of your life . I still savor the moment when I let our Elders know that my personal life was none of their business ,and that I would not discuss my personal life with them ....EVER
Good luck with whatever comes next . Suggest your Dad work out a payment plan with the credit companies himself . If he can afford to pay you something every month ,he can afford to just make that payment to his creditors .
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Another story... possibly final story
by confusedandalone inthis is the exchange of text messages i had with my super spiritual brother.
it is sad... it is pathetic... it has helped me realize that i have no connection to these people anymore.
i feel free today.
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troubled mind
That just sickens me ! The way your parents and brother behave is inexcusable . It is time your brother acted like a man and took on some responsiblity himself . Actually you should allow him the blessing of taking over the debt for your parents ,it just might be Jehovah's purpose you know .
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YOU'VE GOT TO LAUGH!!
by The Searcher in"all of our teachings are based on the bible, not on the writings of some religious leader in the united states.
"1 thessalonians 2:13. http://www.jw.org/en/jehovahs-witnesses/faq/not-a-sect/.
all of the teachings (i counted 8) which have been reversed in the july 15th watchtower were based on the bible???????????.
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The happiest people on earth... Yeah right
by Bells ini am looking for some advice - or maybe just some moral support.. i can't find the link to my previous thread... but in a nutshell... husband and i got married a couple months ago after 10 or so years together.
he was never baptised, but grew up 'in'.
i never had any exposure to the craziness til i met him and his family.
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About the toasting thing ,I agree they may have had a recent article that pricked their conscience BUT more than likely it was a matter of being in front of other onlookers . Witnesses are commonly hypocritical in my experience . In private around family they will do and say things they would never do in front of others . Clinking glasses with family definitely sounds like something they would do ,but in front of others the whole thing falls under the catagory of 'possibly stumbling others' . So please don't take it as a personal slight of you and your husband ,but rather just another of their Witness quirky weird beliefs . They can not honestly think for themselves the pressure from others always influences their actions .
Sadly as for the negative attitude of his Mother ....yes again very typical JW response . They always must keep the doom and gloom before them as a reminder the end is soooo close . I always try to turn the conversation back to a more postive spin whenever my Mother in law does this to me (it really confuses her )
I am sorry they make you feel like second class citizens .....again in my experience very common behavior . To them it is a world of them against us mentality . They do feel like 'special' people chosen by God and everyone else is Satans little helpers .
His familly needs to be kindly reminded often that you deserve respect as much as they do . Spell it our clearly now before any more time comes goes by how and what YOU expect from them . Tell them it hurt you at the wedding about the toast and WHY ....explain they led you on that toasting was not a big deal to them ,and make them explain themselves on their hypocritical behavior ......If these slights are not brought to their attention they are going to continuse on treating the both of you as second rate .Explain to them how and what you have done in the past to respect their beliefs ,and then tell them it is time for them to do the same for you . Some people have to have it spelled out to them ! It can be done in a calm adult manner just imagine you are explaining Earth customs to an alien
I am sure they love you and their son ,and they really don't want to cause you hurt and pain . They really have just been allowed to get away with bad behavoir for so long they no longer realize it is unacceptable to other people . Other witnesses just take it for granted that they can behave like this .....they need to be aware how uncomely it is to you in order for them to change . Use tact ,but stand up for yourselves .
On a whole other issue your husband really needs to take the blinders off . Suggest that he join the forum .
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Where Are You From?
by finallysomepride inalot of members don't have a flag or country name beside their user name, and well frequently one doesn't know where that particular person is from, tell us your country, state, county or what ever you feel like giving out.
if you are going to post please at least devulge your country.. me, i'm originally from taranaki, new zealand via auckland.
for the most of this decade i have been living & working in brisbane, queensland, australia.. .
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Just got back from a trip to Michigan and the Upper UP .....passed several Kingdom Halls along the way ,and wondered how many ex-jws I might be driving by that post here . Should of thought about that before I left and maybe we could have met .